Molestation and the Scars It Leaves Behind

By Angie

Sexual molestation can leave lasting effects on the person molested. Adult, child, regardless. Children are resilient, probably more so then adults give them credit for, but that's not to say that children won't need help coping once being molested.

Molestation is horrible. Plain and simple. It violates our trust, physical boundaries, emotional state, how we relate to others. The molester doesn't just get his rocks off by molesting, he, or she, leaves lasting scars for the one molested to deal with, usually long term. How unfair is that?

Honestly it makes me angry to know that so many people out there are warped enough to molest a child. How messed up must their thought processes be in order to do such a thing?

Yet another example (big surprise from me huh?): My son was online playing a video game one night, I left the room for just 2 minutes, and apparently he innocently gave out our phone number to a person that he thought was another boy just playing video games. Our phone rang, I answered. The child, or so I thought, asked for my son. I asked who was calling, he said Michael, a friend of (my son's). I called my son, he took the phone, listened, then had a strange look on his face, asked what the person was talking about. I had a bad feeling, took the phone, heard a man's voice talk about meeting him in person, said he had games he wanted to play. I freaked, told off this person big time until he hung up. I traced back the number, called it, to have a woman answer after a few rings. I told her what had happened, she said she didn't understand, that no one had used the phone and no one in her house would make such a call. They didn't have the internet, or so she said.

Now, I'm a trusting person, but not so trusting as to think that the person that called was innocent and meant no harm. Obviously the person that called wanted to meet my son for more than video games, ie disguising his voice to get to talk to my son.

The woman that answered the phone was genuinely surprised and upset about the whole thing. She started questioning her husband while on the phone, ended up hanging up once an argument had ensued.

My point in all of this is that we never know where molesters are waiting to strike. The internet is a prime place for these sick individuals to find innocent children. It is our job to screen who our kids talk to, what they do, who they are in contact with. Even now with my kids being teens I am still watchful, protective.

My children get frustrated with me. "Who are you talking to? Don't give your phone number or address! No personal information!"....I would rather have them frustrated with me, than meet some sick pervert and get hurt. Them getting frustrated means that I have nagged them enough about it that they won't forget. One more way of protecting them from the molesters out there with twisted minds.