Why A Site About Child Molestation

By Angie

When I first starting talking about being molested as a girl people would tell me I should keep quiet. I shouldn't talk about it, it made people uncomfortable. No one wanted to hear about children being molested or abused. Everyone wants to live in their own bubble, no matter how delusional it is. Well you know what? People have kept quiet for so long that it's a taboo subject. In one way they were right, no one wants to hear about it or read about it, but too bad! It's a disgusting part of human life it seems.

When I went to the police to press charges against my father the first officer said to me, this is a family matter, why would you want to bring it out in the public, this should be an issue between you and your father, no one else. What good will it do to bring all of this out? That man was one of the most ignorant men/people I have ever met.

Why would I want to press charges? Because my father did something horrible, something that should at least be punished legally if not morally. I didn't want him thinking he could get away with it and I would just walk away quietly. That is so not my style. Having children myself I wanted them to grow up knowing that if someone did such a thing to them they should take action against it, stand up for themselves, that they didn't have to be a victim, but a survivor. I suppose I wanted myself to know and feel that same thing.

I have lost friends over this issue. Well I suppose they weren't really friends if they were not willing to stand by my side, but nonetheless people have left my life either by their choice, or more often, mine. Has it been worth it? Definitely! Anyone that doesn't want to know what made me who I am today really doesn't want to know me. It's our past experiences that help to make up who we are today. We are constantly learning and changing, hopefully for the better. And it's the close minded people that want to live in their shell that perpetuate child abuse. The people that sit back and are too uncomfortable to talk about the big issues are the ones that allow such things to continue. Denial is not a good state to be in, no matter how safe it makes us feel. Safety can not keep us safe if we deny what is going on around us, safety is just an illusion. It is something we create within ourselves and our own lives so that we can continue to pretend that nothing bad ever happens, and if it does it's to other people.

I am one of those 'other people'. So is every child that goes through abuse or molestation at the hands of another person. It angers me that so many people are willing to ignore signs of abuse, or are willing to turn the other way so as not to have to face such a horrible and incomprehensible thought as molestation.

Like I said in my About Me, you may not like what you read, and if that's the case, be prepared to really dislike me...but at least I'm honest. And if anything is said about me, I hope it's that I was always direct and faced the bad stuff, even when it meant angering others. At least it gets people talking!